CHILDREN SPELL LOVE, T-I-M-E
My two-year-old son, Micah, is obsessed with cars right now. From the moment he wakes up (before his eyes even open), he starts asking for a truck or a car. The other night I heard him “vroom-ing” in his sleep. His heart is filled with a passion for cars.
A few nights ago, I was researching for a study my husband and I are planning for our teens and Micah was playing with his cars. I looked up from my laptop and saw my son walk towards me. He put his car in my hand and moved my hand along the couch arm in tandem with his, moving our two cars into a race.
He put his car in my hand and shot me straight to the heart. I couldn’t remember the last time I had played with my son for more than just a minute. I put aside my laptop and raced a school bus, a monster truck, and two matchbox cars for the next twenty minutes or so.
I really don’t care much about cars, trucks, or races, but my son cares. I don’t care about camping or Pops vinyl figures or Minecraft either, but my husband cares. The study we’ll be giving is important, too, but I need to remember my most important ministry from God and my most important use of my time as a Christian woman is to care about those two people first.
It’s easy in the day-to-day to lose sight of our most important time priorities. There’s always someone in church or family who needs help, a deadline to meet or beat, or a task to accomplish. The type A personality in my soul insists I should focus solely on the next task from my bottomless to-do list or I would find my limited time wasted. But is God’s great desire for my life to love a to-do list? No… God gave me a husband and a child: I gave myself the to-do list.
The ultimate woman of the Bible is described in Proverbs 31. Verse 8 tells us, “Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.”
Why did her kids and husband bless and praise their mama and wife? It’s because she loved them and showed her love with her actions and time: she knew who God had called her to be and how to spend her time accordingly. We can’t really get to the blessed and praised part unless we have our priorities right. When Micah grows up, I want him to remember that I loved him more than a to-do list. I want him to want to bless me for love I gave him.
I know it’s hard, especially with the schedules and to-do lists that we Christian women keep these days to “give up” time set aside for our tasks, but every minute I devote to my to-do list, no matter how much good it brings or what it accomplishes, counts for nothing if I don’t first show my love to my husband and child. 1 Corinthians 13:3 tells us, “And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.” Good deeds we do for our families, friends, community and churches mean nothing without charity (or love).
Love really is spelled T-I-M-E. My son needs me to love him more with my time than I love my to-do list with my time. My God needs me to love my husband and my son more than I love my to-do list. It requires a little sacrifice, but it’s what makes all the to-do’s matter to our Lord in the long run.